The Love Map Game

This game is taken from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman, PhD., and Nan Silver.

This is a couple’s game. The more you play, the more you will learn about your partner.

Step 1: Each of you should take a piece of paper and pen or pencil. Together, randomly decide on twenty numbers between 1- 60.

Step 2: Below is a list of numbered questions. Beginning with the top of your column, match the numbers you chose with the corresponding question. Each of you should ask your partner this question. If your partner answers correctly (in your opinion), they receive the number of points listed beside the question. If they answer incorrectly, neither of you receives a point. The same rules apply when you answer. The winner is the person with the higher score after you’ve answered all twenty questions.

  1. Name my two closest friends. (2)
  2. What is my favourite musical group, composer, or instrument? (2)
  3. What was I wearing when we first met? (2)
  4. Name one of my hobbies. (3)
  5. Where was I born? (1)
  6. What stresses am I facing right now? (4)
  7. Describe in detail what I did today or yesterday. (4)
  8. When is my birthday? (1)
  9. What is the date of our anniversary, or choose another important date? (1)
  10. Who is my favourite relative? (2)
  11. What is my fondest unrealized dream? (5)
  12. What is my favourite website? (2)
  13. What is one of my greatest fears or disaster scenarios? (3)
  14. What is my favourite time of day for making love? (3)
  15. What makes me feel most competent? (4)
  16. What turns me on sexually? (3)
  17. What is my favourite meal? (2)
  18. What is my favourite way to spend an evening? (2)
  19. What is my favourite colour? (1)
  20. What personal improvements do I want to make in my life? (4)
  21. What kind of present would I like best? (2)
  22. What was one of my favourite childhood experiences? (2)
  23. What was my favourite vacation? (2)
  24. What is one of my favourite ways to relax? (4)
  25. Who is my greatest source of support (other than you)? (3)
  26. What is my favourite sport? (2)
  27. What do I most like to do with my time off? (2)
  28. What is one of my favourite weekend activities? (2)
  29. What is my dream getaway place? (3)
  30. What is my favourite movie? (2)
  31. What are some of the important events coming up in my life? How do I feel about them? (4)
  32. What are some of my favourite ways to work out? (2)
  33. Who was my best friend in childhood? (3)
  34. What is one of my favourite magazines? (2)
  35. Name one of my major rivals or ‘enemies’. (3)
  36. What would I consider my ideal job? (4)
  37. What do I fear the most? (4)
  38. Who is my least favourite relative? (3)
  39. What is my favourite holiday? (2)
  40. What kinds of books do I most like to read? (3)
  41. What is my favourite TV show? (2)
  42. Which side of the bed do I prefer? (2)
  43. What am I most sad about? (4)
  44. Name one of my concerns or worries. (4)
  45. What medical problems do I worry about? (2)
  46. What was my most embarrassing moment? (3)
  47. What was my worst childhood experience? (3)
  48. Name two of the people I admire the most. (4)
  49. Name my major rival or enemy. (3)
  50. Of all the people we both know, who do I like the least? (3)
  51. What is one of my favourite desserts? (2)
  52. What is my social insurance number? (2)
  53. Name one of my favourite novels. (2)
  54. What is my favourite restaurant? (2)
  55. What are two of my aspirations, hopes or wishes? (4)
  56. Do I have a secret ambition? What is it? (4)
  57. What foods do I hate? (2)
  58. What is my favourite animal? (2)
  59. What is my favourite song? (2)
  60. What is my favourite sports team? (2)